How to Forgive YOURSELF and OTHERS

Forgiveness is one of the most powerful acts that we can do. We are taught that when we forgive, we are not doing it for the other person, but we are doing it for ourselves, to free ourselves.

For years, I, like so many other people had been caught up in people telling us that we have to forgive ourselves and others in order to be free inside of one self. But, what we weren't taught is HOW to do it. I had been reading many, many books on the subject, and researching it and wanting to know HOW does one truly forgive, only to come up with frustration, and no answers. We are taught the benefits and to just let go, but not the HOW. How can one truly let go of the hurt, anger, and resentment that we feel towards someone who has caused us so much pain?

It wasn't until years later when I saw "The Passion of Christ" that I truly understood what it means to forgive and how to do it. It took three times to watch it, when it finally sunk in and I had my "AHA" moment. It wasn't until I heard Jesus Christ say on the cross, "Forgive them Father, for they not know what they do". It took the third time to watch it to realize the power in his words, "for they not know what they do".

I started to understand on a deep level what Jesus was saying. They really don't know what they do. If they really knew what they were doing, they wouldn't have done it. This applies to everyone.

I can hear some of you say, but they knew what they were doing, and they did it anyway. There has to be a very deep understanding on a very deep spiritual level to really get this. What I realized is, they don't get it, they really don't know. Please meditate on this and you will see. The deeper understanding won't come from your mind, your ego. It comes from your true understanding when YOU connect with God.

This also applies to you in forgiving yourself. You can learn how to forgive yourself when you see that you really didn't know better at the time. Had you known better, you would have done better. But, since you didn't know better AT THE TIME of what you blame yourself for, you have to realize that you could not have done any better than what you knew at the time. And when you think about, you can not only forgive yourself, but also alleviate any guilt that you carry around as well. If you can see how to forgive yourself, then you can see how to forgive others.

There is an added component to this which I will post in another blog having to do with "Taking it Personally".

I hope this helps my friend, and realize that when you can truly forgive yourself and others, you are coming from a place of unconditional love, from God. And, if Jesus Christ can forgive them for what he was put through, so can you!

Many Blessings To You,
Laura R. Kiray, RMT, IARP

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